Ok I have decided to go ahead as planned and install the flywheel I have chosen not to replace the seal I know if worse comes to worse it can be done later lol. Sorry baz I have clead up all the oil with a rag. (I think your correct Ive done 180,000 km and I'm inclined to rebuild the engine and take the engine out of the car when I do that I will fix this seal)
I was generous with the red thread locker about 3 drops on each bolt and I have torqued down all the bolts to 78 pounds and double checked them all.

The round thing (spigot bearing) was put into the middle of the flywheel using a block of wood and a hammer. The flywheel has been cleanned with "break cleaner" and I have not touched it since.
Molygrease was applied to the gear bit in the middle of the frictional material (a very thin smear)
The clutch alignment tool was used to center the frictional material to the flywheel. The higher middle part is facing the pink clutch cover plate. The more flush side is facing the flywheel.

The pink clutch cover plate has been put on the exceedy sticker has been removed because its considred rotational mass. These six small bolts were torqued down to 25 pounds I know a factory flywheel needs 17 pounds, however I chose to follow the instructions that came with the ACT flywheel.

I have prepared the gear box it is ready to go back into the car tomorow, basically you just follow these very cute instructions found on the back of the excedy clutch box. I greased the spine and the clutch fork and put in a new "thow out bearing". This is very easy to install very straight foward you can't put it in backwards.

I think Im just going to pack up and call it a day. thanks for the suport and advice its greatly appreciated.