Andrew's got my back
In brief Slug:
* 4-1 headers should give you better top end power at the expense of low-end torque
* 4-2-1 headers should improve power across all rev ranges with maybe a negligible drop in low-end torque
* the standard headers are 4-2-1 with very short primary and secondary pipes, check out Andrew's pic, his is a 4-2-1 with much longer primaries and secondaries. This changes where the power is made in the rev range.
* mandrel bends are good if you can afford them, but unnecessary.
* for naturally aspirated cars, do not go bigger than 2.5\" diameter for the rest of the exhaust as this will disrupt proper flow and exhaust scavenging.
* replace your catalytic converter with a true high-flow cat. You will need some research to find genuine high-flow cats. I wouldn't go by the word of your exhaust shop as they don't really care what they sell you. Perhaps buy this separately and bring it with you when you get it done.
* get a straight-through muffler
* stainless steel and mild steel pipes produce different sounds. Stainless produces a higher-pitched/raspy sound, mild steel produces a deeper/droning sound. Choose what you like.
* Genie headers are well-made. Don't let price be a total judge on quality.
I have Genie on my other car and love them. Around $200 fitted.
The two biggest tips I can give you is ask around for a reputable exhaust shop, and good ones will trial-fit different mufflers so you can choose which one you like the sound of, and ring around to get an idea on price.
I also somewhat agree with Mr Q in that the standard headers are well-made items. Maybe do it in stages Slug, get a high-flow cat and the exhaust from that back to the muffler. Then change your headers later.
Happy hunting.